Anxiety is one of the most common mental health challenges people face, and yet it can still be difficult to know how to support someone going through it, especially when that person is a close friend or family member.
We believe that support from loved ones can be a powerful part of someone’s recovery journey.
Friends and family play a unique role in helping someone with anxiety. They offer trust, familiarity, and emotional safety. Even though some may worry they lack the expert knowledge to help, often providing empathy, patience, and a willingness to listen can make a meaningful difference.
We caught up with one of our experienced community wellbeing connectors, Billy Gardner, to understand the ways in which we can support those close to us.
Patience is key
“Anxiety can make everyday tasks feel overwhelming. By offering gentle, consistent support, you can build trust. That trust can make a big difference when bigger challenges arise.
Patience is also key. Aim to be a calm, reassuring presence. Support them in the small things, and they’ll be more likely to turn to you when they need help with the big things. This could be anything from helping with phone calls that are daunting to supporting a major life incident like a job interview.”
Focus on listening
“Listen to their needs and anxieties. While it might be tempting to offer advice or try out techniques you've come across online, it's usually better to simply listen and talk things through - especially if you don't have relevant experience.
What works for one person may not work for another. A good way to support your friend is to listen, observe, and respond to what they need. As a friend or family member, draw on what makes them smile, and what feels normal for them. Use that insight to guide your support.”
Check your wellbeing
“Make sure you’re also checking in with yourself. Supporting someone with anxiety can be emotionally demanding, especially when it’s someone you care deeply about.
It’s okay to set boundaries, take breaks, and seek support for yourself when needed. Whether that means talking to someone you trust, accessing professional help, or simply carving out time to rest, it is important to remember that your wellbeing matters too.”
By being there in a way that feels safe and supportive, you’re helping create the conditions where recovery is not only possible, but also sustainable.
Do you have any tips of your own on how to support a loved one with anxiety? Share them with us on Bluesky. See our tips on how to manage your own anxiety.
